Once you get over your self-inflicted self-doubt and allow your eyes to open to certain shining facts about how your passions do contain oodles value and how your interests are interests of others as well, you will be capable of empowering your motivation to accomplish most or all of the crazy dreams you dream.  And when You finally decide to take action and prove to yourself (and the rest of the world) that you can do it ‘like a rock star’ you will finally get it.

You get that you are worth your dreams.
You get that you are good enough.
You get that the only real limitations are your own thoughts and the process you use them.
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If you want to achieve any sort of meaningful success in your life, you have no choice but to take ownership of everything your life contains.

If you don’t accept responsibility for every action, emotion, thought, and belief in your life, you will be susceptible to exactly the sort of change you are seeing right now – random events. There are excuses preventing you right now from being the best you, you can be.

Your thoughts need to be constructive, not destructive.

You are where you are in life because of the decisions your made in your life. Period.
Nobody has it easy.

Because when you take complete ownership of your past, you finally get to take ownership for your future.

We all want to control our own destiny, but so many of us believe fate has more control then we do. That’s just a lie… it’s the excuse we use to avoid the pains of personal responsibility for our current place in life.
It’s easier to feel better about yourself on a superficial level when we deny the realities of our own in-action or laziness. Do you feel good about intending to do something one day? How do you feel after you complete a meaningful task?

4 are birds on a sand bar in the ocean, 1 decides to fly away – how many remain?
Four. The bird only thought about flying. My question is this: What happened next? Was there a better way?

Every moment of every day, with every thought guiding each and every action, we’re slowly shuffling our future choices into bits of immutable history. The difference between drowning on a sinking raft and being waited-on in the perfect place just how you like, is simply a matter of choice – and the personal responsibility to take action on the choice.

The Past is the past, remember the lessons learned from it, but don’t let it drag down your future. Use it – Raise high by providing strength through knowledge and experience. Let The past go. While it may take time to see the effects, Change happens in a moment. Make that change now to choose a better future. Make now better.

Choose.

Even if you have seen this before, I recommend reading it again every few weeks or months. We all have a tendency to get caught up in busy times and sometimes forget what we are really trying to accomplish. This may help reset your perspective.

While the following are not my words, their meaning resonates well with my intended purpose here. If you want to become a better person, run a better business, or have stronger relationships, these words will provide food for thought.

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways , but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life not life to years. We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We’ve done larger things, but not better things.

We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete…

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent.

Remember, to say, “I love you” to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

George Carlin

When you have no goals or aspirations it’s hard to make anything of legacy from your life.
With the world moving at such a quick pace, thinking outside the box can seem a bit overwhelming.

So much uncertainty in your personal life with your family and friends allows you to believe you will have time to pursue, or yet consider, what your life dream and goal is – later.

When but you consider when will you have time? Think about the direction of your life and where you will be in 6 months in the future… if you don’t know then lets assume in the same place maybe? What about in 6 years? 30? Is your path ever going to have the time and demand you make it a good time?

Coming out of your box can be tough. Breaking old habits, addictions, and perceived truths appear impossible on occasion. We all have it tough, and someone has it better, someone has it worse.
Believing your interests are valuable interests to others is one of the first hurdles to get past.
This gets a lot easier when you have a place that feels like a home where you can relax – away from the walls that protect and encase you. A place to dream your dreams, and a state of mind where you believe you are worth achieving your dreamy success.

Is it silly to think you can make money doing things you feel are fun and exciting? …pushing your limits in almost comfortable, but really exciting ways?

(Where there is a will there’s a way)

When you believe your interests are worth pursuing because they are valuable just the way they are, and you remember a month ago in the future that last month, the month you’re about to live, is so much better then what last month was. And you take action more then before, because you now know better – that your interests – are more valuable to enough people to provide you the means, to make your real interests, your way of making your life as successful as those dreams you have when life is perfect. With more abundance then you need, but that’s just what you’re worth. Design your life when you’re day dreaming. When your back in the real world, take your design of a dream life and execute it with the passion your life is worth. When juice is the worth the squeeze the rewards for hard work can provide a life full of riches.

Take that extra money and buy a homeless person a house if it makes you feel better… hey, maybe I should do that too….

If you don’t know where you are, how are you going to get where you need?

Randomly guessing your current situation can lead you in exactly the wrong direction, with the added feature of being sure you are right. This inevitably leads to being in a worst position that when you started, and possibly dragging your believers to the same demise.

Accurately assessing what you are capable of is truly the first step to self-improvement.

This allows for proper structured improvement, setting the growth challenges close enough so it’s an obtainable stretch, and not so difficult that you give up before succeeding.

Of course, anything you don’t really want will get poor effort and hence, poor results (or none at all).

We humans are dynamic creatures, and there are are several area’s that can be improved.

How diligent are you to being productive while working? Do you eat for health or just because it’s there? When faced with a confrontation do you remain calm and rational, or blow your lid spouting nonsense?

If the last few years you have eaten 2 big-mac’s everyday for lunch, it’s probably unrealistic to believe you can instantly change that to a salad and health shake tomorrow and each day following. But you could make that change for 1 day the first week, 2 days the the next week, and so on – or even make it one Big-mac, hold the fries, and snake on a protein drink later in the day, until you can remove the garbage food from your diet altogether.

You must make your goals realistically obtainable to be successful, and you have to know you starting position before you can set a achievable targets.

What seems to be the biggest barrier for personal self growth is denying the reality you live. Setting goals that are too far out of reach will cause frustration, and goals that don’t require effort will fail too yield improvements. When unrealistic goals are set people will find something to blame, either themselves, or believe the task is impossible for them.

I believe nothing is impossible, but the proper “baby steps” must be employed for most people to work through to the end.

Little accomplishments along the path go a long way to to keep you motivated to continue.
Many people call this building momentum.

For the greatest improvement I suggest you identify your personal weakest area, seriously and accurately assess where you truly stand, accept that as your truth, then set an obtainable progression to your goal.

So What’s this done for me?

Personally, I have seen tremendous benefits from pursuing the path of self-discipline.

When I was in my 20′s, I had the ignorantly common diagnosis of being pi-polar. Doctors provided me with many medications and handed me prescriptions with a smile. I was given several months off work and even asked if I want to go on long term disability to live on “the system” for life.

Sure I was depressed, but it wasn’t a medical condition, it was psychological positioning. I didn’t like my life, I didn’t know what was wrong, nor did I know the right path. Some drug companies and doctors drug-pushers made some money by pretending to help me. This was just a band-aid solution, and not even a good one at that. My depression was caused because I knew I was being fed lies about how life worked. This mental state was caused by not knowing what these lies were, trying to live them anyway, and not having anyone around me who was willing (or able?) to teach better.

So after getting board playing 16 hours a day of Sid Meier’s Civilization (I wasn’t working remember), I realized I was in the position of “no mad” – one man with nothing but a dream. I consciously decided if I could use this well made and realistic script of life (in the game) to conquer the world, I could do this in real life to. …And so my journey began.
Initially this meant tackling a lot of difficult challenges, but I overcame them and grew a lot stronger in a short period of time. I continue everyday to become a better and more valuable contribution to society.

If I just waited for my life to happen, and relied on my (well intentioned) family and corrupt doctors, I’d probably still be a drugged up zombie – or dead. Now, nothing about my life is an accident – for better or worse, everything was planned. But the more recent days are filled with hope and prosperity because I know that the ‘failures’ I achieve are just accelerated learning curves.

It pays off in the end…

None of my successes happened overnight, nor did they just fall out of the sky.
I had to leave friends I cared about but were poisoning my thoughts,
Fight with myself regularly for the conviction that doing nothing was far more painful,
And conjure up some sort of (realistic) arrogance in my head that I really was worthy of lofty goals.

It has not been easy, but it has been worth it. Everyday is a new adventure that I look forward to.

So I ask, What are you worth inside and what do you want to share or accomplish in this lifetime?

It will not be easy, but it will be worth it. The first step is to openly accept where you are right now, whether you feel good about it or not. Surrender yourself to what you have to work with — maybe it isn’t fair, but it is what it is. And you won’t get any stronger until you accept where you are right now.

To borrow some words of Mohand Ghandi – “There is doing and not doing. There is no such thing as trying.”

Grab a pen and paper (for this, it’s better then the computer, trust me please) and start writing out what you want to accomplish. Beside each item list what’s standing in the way of that dream.
Then Do what you need to get past those obstacles and Do Your Dream!

No one else but you can take massive action to achieve anything meaningful.